We’re on the last bit of train
journey home. Another long voyage, this time together. It is late, and dark,
and I am tired. I lean against my love, Ya’Acov. I feel his warmth, his strength,
his presence, his breath, his spirit. Side by side, so many years and still
here. I’m so grateful for the new gentleness which is unfolding between us. I
want to kiss him more than ever.
Thank god (and our own
“hanging in there!) for the ongoing adventure of relationship. We’re now in our
24th year together, which is over half my life; mind boggling! But
what is more amazing and beautiful than that is how the discovery of more
depth, fun, intimacy, love and sweetness goes on going on. We’ve been turning
another corner in our relationship and discovering so much more love, again. Its
as if we keep arriving in a room, and make it ours, and then, after a while,
find another door which leads to another room, and so on and on. As our life
and shared work develops I am so grateful to be sharing the journey with him.
How we have together created the garden in which we each have grown.
So it was a good time for us
to offer the first ever Level II Space
Between Us Couple’s workshop which we just did in Switzerland. We’ve had a lot of enquiries from couples who
couldn’t attend this one (as they hadn’t done Level I). We run this workshop just
once a year, the next one is in February 2011; Waldhaus.
I just did a little tour:
Olten (Fusion), then Ya’Acov arrived
and we had a few days together before the Space
Between Us couples workshop, then we gave a Pachamama Symposium, and then Ya’Acov came home via a Move! evening
in London and me via DanSing in Prague. Then home to the embrace of our beloved house, each
other and our dog Tali.
I was so, so moved by the
simplicity and power of all these workshops, and realised again how deeply the
life of the dance can reflect and transform the dance of life. The theme of
polarities kept showing up, as well as the value of feeling safe, in order for
healing and transformation and new learning to happen.
Working with Yin and Yang,
and with the image of divine (cosmic) mother and father went so deep in Fusion, then the dance between partners
in The Space Between Us and seeing
how deeply we long to love and be loved, and once we know we are safe, we can
let go the fear and the healing can arise. How in the dance of couple-hood we
can be each other’s healers or harmers, and what an ongoing, poignant, life
making or life deadening choice that is, and how we often simply don’t know HOW
to do what we want do deeply to do.
This is on the second day of the
workshop, they could sing! There was a very powerful and beautiful men’s
section in this workshop, it was so, so beautiful to see, feel and hear them,
with their arm’s ‘round each other, expressing their strength, passion and
gentleness. One of the men moved us all by saying that singing like this was
the first time he had ever felt he could fully express his male power in a way
which he was sure was not destructive.The key for this, of course, for all of us, men and women, is the
balance of listening and voicing. That is why, in my opinion, singing together
in harmony is such a wonderful way of practising co-creation. Listening is the
key, to yourself and to the whole, and at the same you need to be clear and
confident in your own part, your difference, and once this is established there
can be a wonderful weaving of awareness of whole and parts. Co-creation is
practised, experienced physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and
becomes an offering of beauty.
The views expressed here do not necessarily represent the views of the School of Movement Medicine.
Roland Wilkinson, Nappers Crossing, Staverton, Devon TQ9 6PD, UK Tel & Fax +44 (0)1803 762255 http://www. schoolofmovementmedicine.com